Wednesday, September 23, 2009

Emote This: Frustration

Hello, everyone!

Welcome to my first post on CIC. I’m tickled to be here – which might seem strange, considering that I’ve decided to focus on a rather nasty emotion today: frustration.

(As in, I'm frustrated that I'm so late posting today – sigh.)

Of course, it wouldn’t be the first time we've contemplated such a negative feeling at CIC. At other times, we’ve talked about jealousy, anger, sadness, fear, stress, and confusion – all of which can lead to frustration – for authors and characters alike. If we’re not careful, jealousy can urge us to resent our own place in life, anger can make us feel as powerless as a crawfish to change other creatures' behavior, and crippling emotions like sadness, fear, and confusion can turn into disappointment with ourselves.

Even our recent “training and education” discussion revealed a few frustrations in our little community, so I know I’m not alone in feeling frustrated at times.

So, what’s caused you frustration in the past – or at this very moment? An inability to do or have something you want? Someone else’s actions or words?

Litterbugs at a public beach?



Parking meters?



People who dress up their pets?



Well, what have you done to deal with such frustration? Or are you still a work-in-progress (so to speak)?

Authors and characters are all welcome to participate. I’m sure at least a few of us have a frustration or two. So, let’s hear it! Just remember, this is a community of acceptance – so let's try not to unleash our frustrations on one another.

Maybe if we air our troubles – and try to deal with them – we'll be able to sleep more easily in the future.

65 comments:

Laura Martone said...

Okay, I'll go first. I'm frustrated that I didn't get up on time today. I must do something about this crazy schedule of mine.

Ricky said...

It seems that no matter how carefully I explain things, the band doesn't understand that if they want human fame by human means, they have to also abide by human standards of behavior. It's like the concept goes right over their heads that you can't feed off your fans.

Very frustrating.

Vic said...

Well, Ricky, it's not like I haven't tried to meet you halfway, but you don't like it when I go to the blood bank, either.

Ricky said...

That's because you steal, Vic. Stealing is illegal and unethical.

Vic said...

See what I have to put up with? And you human types have the nerve to wonder why I'm grumpy?

Laura Martone said...

Well, I should've known that my plea for us to not "unleash our frustrations on one another" would be ignored. Sigh.

Then again, it sounds like these are some ongoing frustrations between you both, Ricky and Vic. I hate to cause more problems, but, Ricky, perhaps it would be better for Vic to steal blood from the bank (despite the legal and ethical implications) than to kill a whole human fan. Just a thought.

Then again, Vic, have you ever considered drinking animal blood instead? What do cows taste like, I wonder? Their milk is yummy, so their blood probably is, too - and maybe you wouldn't need to drain them completely to get a little sustenance. Just a suggestion.

Candy said...

I got utterly frustrated when I lived in that basement apartment in London. I was discouraged from painting, yet all around me, all the time, things called out to be put on canvas.My life seemed to be spiraling down a drain, unused. Then I fled to the U.S. and everything is different. My frustrations now are only small ones.
My author says her frustration is that time flies so fast she can't spend enough time with me.

Jesse Littleton said...

Hi, Laura! Good to see you. Thanks for the thought-provoking questions.

On the whole, I'm pretty content. I love living down here in Ruby Hollow - especially since Devi came to live with me almost thirty years ago. But I'd say my biggest frustration is that I never left the Hollow for a little while - just to see the world, as I'd hoped to do as a kid.

I'm sure I would've wanted to stay in the Hollow anyway, but it would've been nice to see more than just these eight cave levels, and the farm above. So much to see and do... I'd even love to visit Olivia on the surface (only met her the one time, when her mother came to live down here) and maybe meet her family. And I KNOW Devi would want that.

But you can't have everything in life, can you?

Kaelin said...

In two words or less:

Aidan.

Aidan said...

Nice, Kaelin. You didn't read the complete instructions on the assignment, did you?

Kaelin said...

You know, if you'd pick up a dirty dish, your room, put the weight plates back, even once I wouldn't be as frustrated.

Aidan said...

You're just mad because I'm sending you on that mission to Bogata.

But look at the bright side. You won't have to look at my dirty room.

Kaelin said...

They don't even need me. They have no need of a sharpshooter at all. You're just getting back at me for stepping on those arrows.

Which you left on the beach, btw.

Jason said...

I get tired when little boy-demons argue. Sigh. Sibling rivalry is frustrating, eh, Marc?

Marc said...

That's right, brother-mine.

Aidan said...

Oh get over yourselves. I'm going for a swim.

Alone.

Marc said...

Snort. LMAO.

Now let's go bug Kaelin, Jay.

Gabby said...

Hey, Vic, do you know about the Masai tribe in Africa? I was once told that they lived off the blood of their living cattle. Maybe you could join them or, like Laura suggests, get a couple of cows.

I get really frustrated when I'm stuck inside this lousy reformatory with no chance to escape into the Wood because the &%#@ guards won't go to sleep.

scruffy said...

Grrrr. Grrrr. Grrrr. Grrrr.

WoofWoofWoofWoofWoofWoofWoof

Whine, Whine, Whine, Whine

Aidan said...

Aw scruffy, c'mere. If I throw you a stick you'll feel better, I bet, huh boy?

Olivia Harper said...

Aw, Scruffy, it can't be all that bad, whatever's troubling you. You should come over to my house - Buddy's dying to see you again, after meeting you this weekend.

As for my own frustrations... I'd say that, like Jesse, my life is pretty darn good. But I sure would love to see my mom again. Oh, if only she and Jesse COULD come meet my family (especially now that Michael knows the whole story) - that would be wonderful!

Guess I'll just have to settle for meeting them on the surface farm one of these days.

Devi Marconi said...

Oh, Liv, that would be wonderful. I'd love to meet your husband - and your children. But, like Jesse said, we can't have everything in life...

In deciding to live down in Ruby Hollow all those years ago, I knew I was giving up some things. But I was so miserable where I was - though not with you, sweetheart, never with you - you know I had to come. Not a day goes by, though, that I don't miss you. And I feel grateful that we've been able to sneak a few visits over the years.

Incidentally, when do you think you'll be able to drop by again? This time, maybe you could bring your whole family... now that they know about me.

scruffy said...

Ruff!!!

Ruff!!!

Gnaw, gnaw, gnaw, gnaw.....



wag, wag, wag, wag, wag

shy said...

'In certain trying circumstances, urgent circumstances, desperate circumstances, profanity furnishes a relief denied even to prayer."

~Mark Twain

Michael Harper said...

I couldn't agree more, Shy. Sometimes, profanity is the only thing that helps to soothe a frustration.

One frustration I have is with my author. Why has she still not finished the revision of our novel? That's what I'd like to know.

What's taking her so long? The story's done, right? Why can't she shape it up and ship it out?

I've already published several books since she began this journey.

Laura Martone said...

Well, Michael, while I appreciate your frustration (and share it to a certain extent), I can't stress enough that writing nonfiction books as a pediatrician is far different from crafting a novel from scratch and then polishing said novel to the publishing industry's liking.

I've published a few travel guides since starting this novel, you know, so it's not like I'm unfamiliar with the concept. But fiction is a different kind of beast, as the authors here will attest.

Besides, I wouldn't get too grumpy with me if I were you. I have a lot of words to cut, and I've been toying with the idea of getting rid of the epilogue... then you wouldn't be in the novel at all.

Christine H said...

Gabby- Marc has chosen you as this week's Character of the Week!

Would you please ask your author to contact me at hanorja@yahoo.com?

Thank you! And, I hope you'll bring the unicorn on Friday, too.

Lord Synedd said...

I am fascinated with the obsession you humans have with these trivial emotions. My people know that it is not circumstances that determine one's well-being, but the strength of one's character.

I am perplexed by the great hold that such trivialities have over you. Surely you are wasting a great deal of your energy resisting, when you should be looking instead for the true path to greatness. In everything, there is a way of honor to be found.

You must learn to discipline yourself to shut out the noise and haste. Control your mind, and you control your circumstances.

Do not let them control you! That is folly.

Christine H said...

I'm frustrated that I'm sick again this week. Unlike Lord Synedd, I have no magic with which to heal myself.

It is very frustrating to be unwell. I wish I could just stay home and write, instead of going to work every day.

I'm also frustrated that for some reason Blogger won't let me post under my Google account.

Alexander said...

Every time another bill comes in the mail, I get frustrated. Why does it cost so much to live?

My author, who is being too lazy to go sign into her own account, would like to add that she get's frustrated every time she looks at her schedule and realizes that she has neither to time to write and was supposed to update a story well over 2 months ago.

Laura Martone said...

Yay! It'll be fun to hear from Gabby on Friday.

Incidentally, Christine, I'm sorry that you're feeling so bad. I haven't been feeling too well either lately. Stupid headache makes it hard to stare at the computer, which has unfortunately become one of my favorite things to stare at.

I hope you get better soon - and that your Blogger account behaves itself.

Michael Harper said...

Sorry, Laura. I went away for a while... Had a couple appointments. So many kids are sick right now. That's very frustrating, too.

Anyway, I'd forgotten that the novel isn't all you have on your plate. I'll try to be patient. Of course, I've managed to publish WHILE juggling the duties of a doctor and a teacher, so there's always time if you put your mind to it.

Oh, and I'd rather not get cut from the book. So please do all you can to avoid that.

Laura Martone said...

I can sympathize with you, Alexander. I hate bills, too.

Of course, I can also sympathize with your author. Writing is not an easy task to squeeze into your schedule, especially if you're not getting paid for it.

Bo said...

I guess sexual frustration isn't up for discussion here, right?

Ricky said...

That's right, Bo. And I doubt you'd know anything about it, anyway.

Bo said...

I don't know anything about it, but that doesn't mean I wouldn't enjoy the conversation.

Never mind. I have other things I could be doing than hanging around with you prudes.

Aidan said...

We don't have to discuss sexual frustration... only what we do about it.

Laura Martone said...

Yeah, what do you do about it, Aidan? I'm curious.

(Boy, am I gonna regret this.)

Aidan said...

Oh I think I pretty well do the usual thing people do about it.

Only I have a lot less opportunity now that I have two cousins on my heels (half the time one of them sleeps with me--kind of puts a damper on any time with the ladies) and a Sentinel to run.

Fortunately, Sentinel doesn't frown on extracurricular activity. But my Uncle Julian says it's not good for the family to "create a lot of innuendo." He's probably right.

Marc said...

Mate, he's always right.

Charles said...

I'm rather frusturated at the moment. The author had to stop writing my story so she could go do homework. (Homework. psh. Who cares if she passes English?) Unfortunately that left me in a rather uncomfortable position, which I'd love to get out of soon.

Laura Martone said...

I know what you mean, Charles. Darn authors!

Oh, wait a sec...

Yaoi Sakka said...

Charles, is now an ideal time to tell you that my grades are directly proportionate to my writing time? The high my grades the more homework I can not do and spend that time writing. And stop whining. I just have one more essay to write, and then I can go back to writing.

Current frustration: Trying to figure out of the phrase "one typed page each" means that it has to be one page, or if it can be three. 'Cause if it's one page and no more then I have a lot of cutting to do.

Laura Martone said...

Hmmm... I wish I could help, Yaoi. Sounds like just one page, but the instructions seem vague.

Kaelin said...

In my experience, teachers have never frowned upon getting more. Call it Extra Credit.

Aidan said...

Oh you so would say that, you best-mark, suck-up brother of mine.

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Yaoi Sakka said...

Kaelin, unfortunately my teacher is a little... well, insane. She is extremely paranoid, and even though she claims she wants to help us all pass because it's our senior year and she doesn't want to wreck our GPA she still is extremely strict. And it doesn't help that I think she hates me. She pretty much accused me of cheating and called me stupid.

I can't cut them unfortunately. One of them describes a convention I went to, and I can't do that experience justice in one page, unless I can make the font size 2.

Laura Martone said...

Geez, Yaoi, no wonder you're frustrated. Sounds like you're stuck. If your teacher really is crazy, then she might not take kindly to a deviation from the rules. And even though you're finding it hard to trim your essay, something can always be trimmed. Believe me, I find editing hard, too, but it's always possible. Good luck!

Amy Thompson said...

I'm frustrated that my boyfriend Robert won't quit drinking, and his parents keep insisting my getting pregnant will cure him, and oh yeah, speaking of sexual frustration, why won't his best friend Cal just admit he's in love with me, and lets just get on with it for God's sake.

Whew, I feel better now. Thanks Laura.

Laura Martone said...

No, problem, Amy. Glad this discussion could help. I mean, I know airing your troubles is just the first step, but at least it's a step, right?

I sure wish you the best - especially with Cal. Sounds like that might be a healthier relationship for you.

But whatever happens, just know one thing - it's not your responsibility that Robert is an alcoholic, or that his parents want you to have a child. You have to do what's best for you. Being self-loving is not the same thing as being selfish. Good luck, sweetie!

Olivia Harper said...

What the heck am I still doing up? It's after two on the island, and I just can't fall asleep tonight... maybe it's 'cause I just realized I left my mom hanging earlier. Oops.

I'm sure she's asleep by now, but maybe she'll see this in the morning.

Hey, Mom! I was just talking with Michael recently about planning a trip to Kentucky. I'll keep you posted about the dates... maybe this time, you and Jesse could both come up to the surface to meet us. I think the kids would really enjoy it!

Angela said...

Stupid drivers. The ones that text and blow through stop signs, the ones who hog the straight through lane to make their way up the clogged turning lane just to cut in at the last second, drivers who creep up to the crosswalk as you cross like their Intrpid was turned down as the lead car in Stephen King's Christine and they want to fufill their broken dreams by putting you on their hood.

Devi Marconi said...

Morning, Liv! I'd wondered what happened to you...

Can't wait to see you - and the family. Just keep me posted.

Ooh, a visit! What a way to ease my frustration.

Laura Martone said...

Yep, Angela. I'm with you there. Stupid drivers might just be the worst of modern frustrations. Although insurance companies are up there, too.

Christine H said...

How about stupid pedestrians?

Laura Martone said...

Yep. Them, too, Christine. Let's face it - stupid people are everywhere. Sometimes, they're pedestrians. Sometimes, they're drivers. Sometimes, they work in fast-food restaurants. Sometimes, they work in banks. They're everywhere, I tell you, everywhere!

I'm sure that, on occasion, we've even seemed "stupid" to someone else. It's the human condition, I guess.

My cat, of course, is never stupid. (I have to say that - in case she ever reads this. Otherwise, she might bite my arse again, and that was unpleasant the first time.)

Kalila said...

Yes, Christine and Laura, humans can be frustratingly stupid. But that's mortality for you. It's not like you get a chance to learn from centuries of experience.

Nevin said...

You're right, Kalila. Humans would be so much nicer if they lived long enough to profit from their experience. Just when they finally start to acquire a little wisdom, they die.

It's frustrating, but sad, too.

And now I'm feeling very depressed.

Kalila said...

You know, Nevin, you're a very dear friend but I find it frustrating how many things make you depressed. You really should work on that. Being sad is no way to spend eternity.

Laura Martone said...

Yeah, Nevin, I find myself agreeing with Kalila (I can't believe I just said that). You're a very kind soul, but perhaps a tad sensitive - for your own good.

You're beginning to remind me of Louis (you know, Lestat's friend?). You wouldn't be a brooding vampire, by any chance? I like brooding vampires as a rule - they tend to be kinder to humans - but I often feel sad for them, too. Eternity is a long time to feel depressed.

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