Monday, November 16, 2009

Getting to Know You: Old Age

None of us is getting any younger...















Do you dread the passage of time? Do you fear growing old? Why or why not?

If you're already old, is it what you expected? What advice would you give to those who are younger?

Getting older can also mean getting better, so lets discuss how we feel about aging!

27 comments:

Candy said...

My Great Aunt was very old but she was also very beautiful. She was surrounded by music and moved like a dancer. Her voice was strong and she sang and laughed with abandon. She seemed happy. Then why did she kill herself?

Kalila said...

The only problem with time when you're immortal is that after a couple millennia, it becomes hard to find new ways to amuse oneself. Existence becomes a bit...boring.

Ricky said...

Is that why you and your immortal friends are always getting into trouble? When you're mortal like me, you don't have time to sabotage your goals over and over. There may not be a second chance, and it scares me.

Aidan said...

I guess the whole thing freaks me out. I mean, I've aged as much as I'm going to. But I'm only 22 so I can't imagine being bored, like Kalila. (Though I have to say, I'm around a lot, Kalila, if you ever want something to do.)

It's weird to think of Jase and Marc being so old (almost 100). They look young and act young most of the time, but they feel old.

Calvin Mertz said...

Candy: Though I am on the downward side of 40 I don't feel older than I did at say, 25. My heart is strong and except for the occasional ache of injuries suffered from my lifestyle, I do not feel the normal infirmities that a man my age, with such a physically demanding carreer, are starting to develope. So I understand how your Great Aunt could just carry on, as if she would never die, or run out of energy.

Most of my peers, however, have suffered disabilities, many have died. Every year, my circles of intimate friends and family grows smaller; I cannot imagine bearing my soul to a younger crowd, no matter how alike we seem in personality. My spirit longs for the company of those who have moved on. On those days, I wish for an end to my lonely struggles.

Perhaps you Aunt also grew weary of being the last of her kind.

Calvin Mertz said...

Kalila and Vic: I understand boredom, and time. Prison will do that to a man.

But, I am never feel so alive as when I have some mission to live out. Risk; ah the gods must have created it fo beings such as us. When I'm active, I feel immortal.

Aidan: Poor kid. I understan our races differ, but our essential needs are the same. You have a long, eventful life ahead of you, and years to mature.

Age is not always counted in physical years. Experience, that is where a creature of the universe truly feels his age. You seem a fellow who knows and accepts his duty when the need arises. Cherish and embrace your youth.

Amy Thompson said...

I don't want to get old. I feel I am just starting to live my life. I never expected to get as old as 40, and now that its here, I wish I could go back, relive my life with the knowledge I've gained.

Perhaps Kalila could grant me a wish . .

Now all I can do is watch and hope my children have learned from watching my mistakes, and make better choices for their own lives.

Olivia Harper said...

Hi, everyone! I apologize for being M.I.A. the past few days. My author and her husband were preoccupied, to say the least.

As for old age, well, it doesn't scare me. Every year brings new adventures, new obstacles, new things to learn. I would never want to go back, and though I eagerly look forward to the future, I try hard to focus on the moment at hand.

Laura Martone said...

Sorry, Olivia. I wasn't keeping you away on purpose. Dan and I were focused on our film fest this past weekend, and there was little time for blogs and such.

But how I wish I could be as centered as you... I long to be as focused on the moment. Regret about the past and worry about the future seem to occupy my mind more often than they should. I only hope that I make it to a ripe old age, and that (unlike my grandma, who just celebrated her 87th birthday), I'm still happy to be here.

Nevin said...

I hate to sound too negative about short-lived mortals, but I see a lot of benefit to the wisdom that is gained with years. The aging of the body may seem like a high, price to pay, but...what, Ricky? Why are you looking at me like that?

Ricky said...

It's just that I'm going to look and feel ridiculous hanging around nightclubs when I'm old, Nevin. I'm in a business that values youth, not wisdom.

Kalila said...

Silly human. Invest your money wisely, Ricky, and you won't have to work. Besides, no one said you had to become a talent manager. You could've become an accountant.

Aidan said...

Thanks Calvin.

I wish I could enjoy my youth. I stopped about the time my mom died. I mean, we have moments of fun, but it's mostly work around here.

But I can't let Maliquium win, so there's that. It's not fun, but it's something, I guess.

Jason said...

Aidan doesn't talk much about the work he does. He's often up all night, reading emails and managing resources. You'd never know it by looking at him, but he's better than he thinks at steering the battle.

He's playful enough, but there's a weight on him too. The development of his Sight has aged him greatly.

Jason said...

Ricky, I'm guessing your industry will value wealth quite a bit. Be successful, and you'll be welcome.

Ricky said...

Thanks, Jason. I guess I just don't want to turn into one of those decrepit old farts who hangs around trendy nightspots acting half his age. I see those guys and I'm embarrassed for them.

I suppose it's all in the attitude, though.

Vic said...

Now you're starting to get it, Ricky. Stay in the shadows and act mysterious. It works like a charm.

Ricky said...

I'm concerned with how to grow old with dignity, Vic, not how to suck blood. Thanks anyway, though. Your advice is always...interesting.

Aidan said...

You could just have Vic turn you, Ricky. You do most of your work at night anyway, right?

Tom Bailey said...

I find that being present and in the current moment and taking life every moment serves me better than worrying about the past or future. Today is all that I have anyways.

I love the way this question did make me get clear on this.

This is my firs visit to your blog.

Olivia Harper said...

Hi, Tom! Welcome to CIC. You'll find a pretty good bunch of coconuts - a few bad apples, too, but who's counting?

As to your comment, I completely agree. Living in the moment is the best way to live, in my opinion. Worrying about the past or future only robs you of the present.

Michael Harper said...

I agree in theory, Liv, but it's nevertheless hard to watch your body changing over the years - no matter how hard you try to take care of yourself.

I might have to side with Ricky on this one. It's difficult to just accept old age when you're in a business that values youth. I can see how being a band manager might get harder - and more tiring - over the years.

Even as a pediatrician, I find that the older my colleagues and I get, the harder it is to relate to young kids... unless you go the "Santa Claus look-alike" route. Add a hearty laugh, and they're putty in your hands.

Charles said...

I don't fear time, since for me time has stopped. However I guess you could say I'm old, I've certainly been around long enough. My advice for the young? Find a good hobby now. You'll need it when you're older.

Welcome Tom!

So Olivia, just out of curiosity, which ones of us are "bad apples?"

Alexander said...

Hello Tom! Welcome to CIC.

My only problem with getting old, is that I have a hard time following the technology. Unfortunately I look young enough that people expect me to understand all the new gadgets. Should have seen some of the local teenagers laugh the first time I tried to text.

Olivia Harper said...

Not, you, Charles, or Alexander either. That's all I'll say. :-)

Nutmeg Cross said...

Oh, Alexander, don't feel bad. Technology befuddles me, too, and I AM a teenager.

Donna Hole said...

I have to agree with Vic and Michael. I don't feel as old as my age, yet my body tells a different story. And Ricky's right; going out clubbing past a certain age makes you feel older than whatever years you carry.

So, I don't fear ageing in respect to dying; but I do so hate that sometimes my body defies my spirit. Middle aged I may be - and look - but damn me if I don't feel closer to 30 most days.

..........dhole

There we go; an apt word verif for this topic: nedus. We older folks just need us a bit more time to prepare for our dotage.